Earlier this year I managed to get a copy of Women Who Run With Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estes, this is a book about the true unacceptable nature of women and it is so deep and so inspiring I can only consume it in small bites so that I can really savour it, really absorb it.
Through the work I have been doing by myself and with my Ladies I have come back again to this concept of embracing the unacceptable. I am still assimilating these lessons and I will no doubt come back to this again and again but the idea I am currently working with is simple...
Women have been allowed power on the condition that they abide by the boy's rules. That we women are not "too emotional" and "don't cry or get upset", that we don't get too obviously old, hairy or plump, that we are not compassionate at the expense of business and a whole host of other things too numerous to mention.
So I am bringing you on my journey into the unacceptable nature of women, my journey where I hope to embrace that nature and perhaps help other women embrace it to. Because I don't think those rules work...no wait...because I don't feel those rules work!
Nothing encapsulates my current train of thinking more than these two videos. Talking about the rage carried by women and the compassionate nature of us all which has been suppressed.
If you don't know about the TED talks then consider these your gateway drugs.
This first one is a talk about the fierce nature of women by Chameli Ardagh and why that nature is breathtaking and amazing and to be used as a powerful force to change the world for the better. The honest discussion of the nature of rage as experienced by Chameli is moving beyond belief.
Please be aware of a trigger warning - this video contains descriptions of violence against women, and sexual violence against women, but if you can make it to the end you will find the poem that made me cry with joy!